Interactions with AI are often rude or self-centered.

These AI-talking habits may spill over into our interactions with each other.

Declining politeness is a serious concern, because it is essential for society's functioning.

Most of us would probably say we’re reasonably polite, but there’s one exception: We are rude to our AI assistants. When we speak or type instructions to them, most of us don't include “please” or “thank you,” and we don’t use indirect requests that are a common form of politeness in English, like “Could you send a message?” Instead, we use direct commands like “Send a message.” “Make an itinerary.” “Read this instruction file. Document all your work. Do not skip steps.”

This is not how we talk to each other, and if someone talked this way to their coworkers, they’d get voted Jerk of the Month.

The Importance of Politeness

We dislike rude people because they’re cheaters, skipping the effort to be polite while the rest of us are putting in the work. Making some effort to be polite is essential to our functioning in society, where we’re constantly needing to interact with people outside our core family and friend group. Being polite to these strangers signals that we will cooperate with them and that we merit their cooperation in return: holding the elevator, moving aside to let someone........

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