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Right now, you might not feel like you’re at the beginning of anything, much less the beginning of the rest of your life. After losing a child, it’s not like we can completely start over and pretend that what has happened never happened. We can’t alter the past, but we can change how we choose to move forward.

Don’t worry, your grief isn’t going anywhere. Little by little, you’ll learn to absorb it until you forget that it was once a separate entity that scared the hell out of you. You’ve been moving through it at your own speed while putting in the work, and at some point down the road, you’ll wake up and decide it’s finally time to let go. Just to reassure you, you’re not letting go of your child. You’re letting go of the pain and suffering and fully accepting the reality of losing them.

Letting go is scary. What if you lose your connection with your kid and no longer miss them? What if it feels like you’ve abandoned them? What if you feel guilty for not feeling sad? What if you fall so far into the grief abyss now that you have nothing to grasp?

What actually happens is the opposite of everything you feared. Once you’re able to let go of the agonizing thoughts that you’ve clung to since the day you got the........

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