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What looks like picky eating may be anxiety triggered by unpredictable food sensations.

Pressure at mealtimes increases anxiety and makes children even more resistant to new foods.

Celebrate touching or smelling new foods—progress isn’t just about eating a bite.

Many parents come to see me with the same concern: “My child is just so picky.”

They describe a short list of “safe foods,” lengthy mealtimes, negotiations or fights at the dinner table, or a child who refuses to even touch unfamiliar foods. Often, these parents feel frustrated or worried. They’ve tried rewards, pleading, and behavioral corrections, and yet nothing seems to change.

What looks like stubborn picky eating is often something deeper: anxiety.

Understanding the role anxiety plays in mealtimes can change the way we approach children’s eating challenges, and it can transform mealtimes from a battleground into a place where kids feel safe enough to learn and explore.

The Hidden Anxiety Behind Food Refusal

Eating is one of the most complex skills that children learn. It requires effective sensory processing, motor skills, appetite regulation, and the coordination of more than 50 different muscles. For some children, certain foods cause very real discomfort or fear. And their choice of foods that they are willing to eat may be one of the few areas in their life that they feel like they have genuine control over.

A child who refuses broccoli might not be rejecting the idea of broccoli. Instead, they may feel overwhelmed by its smell, worried about the texture, or unsure of how it will feel in their mouth. For a child with sensory sensitivity or anxiety, that uncertainty can feel overwhelming.

Imagine closing your eyes and being asked to eat something when you are not sure what it is, or how it will taste or........

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