Breaking Up Hurts, but Dwelling on the Past Can Hurt More
Heartbreak is one of the most common shared experiences amongst humans. It is described as a time of affliction involving grief accompanied by painful sorrow. Unrequited love, in particular, can result in feelings of sadness and a desire to regain the love lost. When one is unable to rekindle such affections, heartbreak can begin to feel unbearable. Continuous thought regarding the object desired becomes fixed in the mind. Rumination hinders the healing process and one must discover ways to cope with one’s thoughts. Elliot, performed by Kelvin Drama in the short film Rumination, produced by Chad Eric Smith, found himself in a state of great grief after a romantic breakup and experienced the anguish of ruminative thought.
Baer, (2017) described that the experience of romantic love is similar to drug abuse, as “just like drugs of abuse, romantic love — ‘a normal altered state’ — starts with euphoria and ends with craving” (p. 4). Specifically, when one person’s love is no longer offered, the individual who continues to desire the love longs for what is lost. Rumination, defined as “simply repetitively going over a thought or a problem without completion” (Wehrenberg,........
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