We love to talk about goals in the new year and I think it’s a great time for reflection. I like the ritual of looking at my goals for the year and then having a monthly check-in to review the things I want to change or add. As a couples therapist, I know that the value of rituals of connection can be immense. According to John Gottman’s research, couples that maintain rituals that focus on building their connection have more relationship satisfaction and are less likely to split up. Starting a ritual in which you create and evaluate shared goals for your relationship can be a great way to stay on track. Still looking at it through Gottman’s research, it is also a great way to engage in bids for connection (attempts at positive........

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