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Helping kids face fears is a needed corrective—but it’s only part of the picture.

When parents reduce accommodation, children’s distress will escalate.

Lasting change comes from shifting parent responses, not trying to fix the child.

As parents are urged to help anxious children face their fears, many are left unprepared for the emotional fallout—and unaware of the patterns they can become caught in.

A Necessary Corrective in Parenting Advice

Parents are being told to let children face their fears. This has emerged as an important corrective to societal parenting advice that, over time, has contributed to more overprotective and over-accommodating responses.

This message is gaining momentum across research, expert advice, media coverage, and public discussion—reflected in recent headlines, including the Sydney Sun-Herald’s front-page feature, “Let anxious kids face their fears.” Who can argue with the message that we don’t want to rob children of the opportunity to solve problems for themselves?

But are parents being helped to face their own fears—particularly amid intensified protests and children’s emotional dysregulation as parents begin to withdraw from accommodating responses?

When Parents Change, Children React

Over recent decades, the dominant messaging to parents has been to attune closely to their children’s needs, to assist in regulating intense emotional states, and to prioritize nurture over the imposition of limits. Parents have also been encouraged to remain vigilant for early indicators of mental health vulnerability and to seek intervention........

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