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All couples should schedule a specific hour every week to sit down and talk about what  is and isn't working.

Many couples are unable to raise concerns without it quickly descending into a fight.

A predictable time to voice concerns precludes frantic urgency to blurt out criticisms the moment they arise.

I ask nearly every couple I see to do something that sounds difficult in our era of constant multitasking, crazy busyness, and endless crisis management: schedule a specific hour, once a week, to sit down together with telephones off and deliberately talk about what is and isn't working in their relationship.

Most couples resist this at first, since they assume that if they truly loved each other, difficult conversations would simply arise organically whenever something needed to be said. What I've found over 17 years as a therapist is more akin to the opposite: couples who wait for the "right moment" to raise a concern often find the worst moment to vent a grievance or........

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