One thing we can all be guaranteed, even in a healthy love, is the need for repair during and after conflict. Yet, effective communication through conflict remains elusive for many couples.

There are two kinds of apologies that every couple should practice getting better at: (1) in the moment and (2) after a regrettable incident or fight.

In-the-moment apologies can be short and to the point.

A simple formula is to name the specific thing that you’re apologizing for, express authentic regret, and ask if your partner accepts your apology.

Example: “I’m sorry for saying __________. It was hurtful; I regret it. Do you accept my apology?”

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