Attachment styles are fascinating, but they can also be confusing. It’s logical to assume that you have an insecure attachment style if you feel insecure. This notion may be reinforced by the insecurities you experience in your relationship. But let’s take a closer look. This may not be true.

A secure attachment style is the predictor of emotional intelligence in adulthood. It means that you have empathy and insight and that you are accountable. You trust others and try to see the good in people. Acting selflessly when you need to in a relationship is rarely a problem for you.

These capacities stem from your ability to grapple with uncomfortable emotions, understand them, and act on them usefully. Although admitting you are wrong and taking responsibility for yourself is not fun, you do it because you want your loved ones to trust you and you care about how your actions and words impact them.

The ability to recognize, articulate, and process troubling

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