Emotional intelligence is the "it" factor.

There are three high level EI tendencies that signify you have it.

Although you may not enact these tendencies every time, you try very hard to make them your norm.

Respond instead of react, set boundaries in place of being passive aggressive, and embrace accountability.

Emotional intelligence is the “it” factor. EI people are secure enough to handle their own flaws and continually evolve as a result. They look in the mirror instead of outsourcing all blame, and they are not fixated on the ego-win in the moment, but rather on the deeper, meaningful, and long-term priorities. Although this description portrays them as saint-like, they are certainly not. They make mistakes like everyone else and occasionally lose their temper, but overall, they routinely do 4 things that set them apart from everyone else.

1) They respond… not react.

When confronted, they quickly reflect on what the person is saying instead of immediately lashing out defensively. Their ability to think about the other person’s perspective, while looking at themselves to evaluate the merit of the confrontation, allows them to respond rather than react. They are equipped with a greater understanding of the issue; they can decide fairly whether they are at fault or not and reply with a grounded, balanced, and wise rebuttal that is not disrespectful or destructive to the relationship.

Alternatively, someone who reacts refuses to think about their part in the issue and........

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