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'How to Feel Loved' is a fine example of a scientifically based book full of good advice.

It begins by pointing out that to feel more loved, you need to first make others feel more loved.

The authors suggest five mindsets to make your relationships more mutually affectionate.

I used to be embarrassed to walk into the “Psychology” section of the local bookstore. Most of the titles on offer there were variations of “pop psychology” that met the criterion for “pop” but not for “psychology.” Psychology is, after all, the discipline that uses scientific methods to analyze human thoughts, feelings, and behavior. But a shockingly large portion of pop-psych books have little or no scientific evidence underlying their confidently stated nuggets of advice about how to improve your relationships, your moods, or bad habits. Many could as easily have been featured in the bookstore section on religion, perhaps in a subsection titled “Untested but Pleasant-Sounding Ideas Related to Pastoral Counseling.”

The recently released book How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis is a shining example of an advice book that really does belong in the psychology section. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a distinguished professor at the University of California, Riverside, who has conducted many years of rigorous research on the causes of happiness and psychological well-being. I have given her book The How of Happiness to several friends and relatives, and recommended it to many others as a great example of useful science-based........

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