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Being Friend Zoned means that the person you are interested in romantically views you as just a friend.

Before you try to get out of the Friend Zone, check whether you are even there by asking frankly, directly.

Realize that dating is about finding the right mutual match rather than one trying to win the other over.

There are some places known to be really hard to get out of, like the Alcatraz Federal Penitentiary, referred to as "The Rock"; the Sahara Desert; the Moon; and, of course, the "Friend Zone." For the first three, there are at least obvious solutions for escaping, like that John Patrick Mason character played by Sean Connery, a hot air balloon, and a spacecraft. However, getting out of the Friend Zone—where the person you are romantically interested in has already deemed you to be only-friend material rather than significant-other material—can seem near impossible. But fear not, adventurer; there are steps you can take to get out of the Friend Zone. There's no guarantee, though, as to which direction out you'll be going.

Step 1: Determine if You Are Even in the Friend Zone

First things first, check whether you have actually been Friend Zoned. The other person could think that you're the one doing the Friend Zoning. Or perhaps he or she is still sorting out feelings for you. Therefore, if you want the possibility of a romantic relationship, be frank, ask, and see the response. The answer will be very telling. If it's something like "I wouldn't want to risk our friendship," "I see........

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