When two people from different cultural backgrounds choose to build a life together, they are not only blending traditions and families but also continually renegotiating questions such as “Who am I now?” and “Where do I belong?”

For cross-cultural marriages, questions of identity and belonging often sit just below the surface of daily life. Choices about language, holidays, child-rearing, faith practices, and even food can evoke powerful feelings of loyalty, loss, pride, or conflict. Over time, these everyday choices shape how each partner may understand themselves and the “we” they are creating together (Popescu & Pudelko, 2024).

Recent literature explores the idea that, in cross-cultural marriages, each partner brings a complex, layered identity (Ducu & Hossu, 2025; Nguyen & Benet-Martínez, 2013). Over the course of their marriage, partners may experience identity expansion, a feeling of enrichment from new traditions, languages, and perspectives; identity conflict, when one may feel torn between cultures or pressured to choose one; and identity marginalization, a feeling of not fully belonging in either cultural world (Nguyen & Benet-Martínez, 2013). As practitioners, it is........

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