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Everyone deserves a good life, but life isn’t always good.

Functioning in life requires the willingness and ability to tolerate distress.

Avoiding discomfort in life is unrealistic and unfair to others.

The courage to face the good and bad in life allows us to fully live it.

In general, everyone deserves comfort. Everyone deserves to feel good and have their needs met. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way.

Annoyingly, the trite saying parents sometimes throw at children is true: Life isn’t fair.

To function, we have to be able to tolerate distress. That means understanding and accepting discomfort.

Life can be uncomfortable in all realms: work, relationships… our own thoughts and feelings. To be human is to feel discomfort. To be a person is to suffer.

Entire religions and spiritual practices focus on accepting human suffering.

There are whole industries and professions dedicated to well-being, to feeling good, both physically and mentally.

We talk about “health” when it comes to finances, our emotions, our sex lives, and pretty much anything involved with living.

But if comfort is the only way we can or will live, we won’t live a realistic or functional life.

People who are unwilling to experience discomfort, those who will not tolerate distress,........

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