Why Can't I Let Go?
One of the most difficult psychological processes for us is the one in which we attempt to let go. We lose all kinds of things during a lifetime. A relationship that has ended—either through death or separation of some kind—is one of the hardest. Perhaps the relationship was difficult and it ended with recrimination and accusation. Perhaps someone died very suddenly. Perhaps someone died after a long and difficult relationship. Whatever the issue, letting go—which in its healthiest form is a long, difficult grief process—is not a closure. In the end, there is only a level place of acceptance. Acceptance is a mostly peaceful place in which we accept the reality of the situation with a kind of grace. We are able to allow life to be life on life’s terms.
So, why can’t we get there? What stops us from letting go? Let’s look at some of the reasons.
Grief: All too often, we do not allow ourselves to go through the entire grief process. We get stuck somewhere along the way. We resist the urge to cry. We don't allow ourselves to feel the anger, or we stay stuck in rage. We don’t talk about it with anyone. We are trying so hard to be strong that we take care of everyone but ourselves. We get stuck........
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