I’ve Gotten Married To The Same Man 5 Times. Here’s Why I Think More Couples Should Do It.

“At the time, it sounded like a quirky theory. Twelve years later, it’s become the way I understand marriage.”

Before my husband and I were even a couple, he once asked me what I’d do if I ever really liked someone. I wasn’t known for liking people very much, but I’d thought about it enough to answer.

“I’d get married,” I texted.

“That’s pretty traditional for a nontraditional girl,” he wrote back.

“Well,” I replied, “I don’t believe in sitting on the fence. And I definitely don’t need a boyfriend. Plus, I’d marry the person over and over.”

I hit send – then spent the next 15 minutes explaining what I meant. I didn’t want one massive wedding with one massive price tag and the pressure of making everything perfect in a single day. If I ever married, I wanted the freedom to do it again and again because the 10th time would feel different than the first.

At the time, it sounded like a quirky theory. Twelve years later, it’s become the way I understand marriage.

So far, I’ve married my husband five times. Though we’ve only done it once legally, each time we exchange vows I learn something new about myself and our relationship.

The first time was at a courthouse. I cried the entire way through.

After we moved in together, my husband proposed in the middle of sex and then took me to Ikea, which, honestly, feels like the most accurate version of modern romance.

We started planning a wedding, but then one night he said, “I really just wish we were already married.”

A few days later, we stood in front of a judge in the York County Courthouse. I cried – loudly, uncontrollably – through the entire ceremony. I cried so much, I’m convinced the judge thought I was a victim of human trafficking. He looked genuinely alarmed by the idea that this man made me sob my way into matrimony.

It was ridiculous. It was memorable. It was real. It was totally raw.

And if that had been my only wedding – my only chance to mark the moment – I’m........

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