My husband and I agreed to stop bringing up past issues. When we disagree, we talk it out and have decided to not discuss it again, but he’s not doing this. I am sick of reliving old arguments, and it just goes on and on for hours. How do I break the cycle without sounding dismissive? – Let It Go Already

Let It Go Already – So the real issue here is that he’s not really forgiving you. He’s just saying that he’s willing to forget it for the time being. So, when you guys talk it out, you think that the argument has been managed appropriately. He’s not there mentally with you. Just tell him that you’re tired of living in the past and you want to live in the present with him. These old issues will keep haunting your relationship today and it’s going to do nothing but drag both of you down. He really needs to learn what the true meaning of forgiveness is. We have all been hurt and we have all been through trauma with people, but if you really forgive them then you don’t throw it in their face when the time seems fit. If it happens again, remind him of the agreement and work out whatever issue is in front of you........

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