My husband and I agreed to no big purchases right now, but he secretly financed a new truck. He says he didn’t tell me because he knew I’d get upset. I feel blindsided and hurt. How do we come back from this? – Left In The Dark

Left In The Dark – Communication is so key in a marriage! There should be no secrets or hiding things behind each other’s backs. There is really no good excuse for him doing this besides him being selfish. He wanted a truck and no one was going to tell him no. This is unfair to you, and you have every right to be upset. A hard discussion needs to be had about partnership. Being in a marriage means being a true teammate, there is no more going solo. And if he had run the purchase by you beforehand, you might have been willing to compromise. He just didn’t want to hear what you had to say because his mind was made up. Sit down, tell him how unfair this is, and you need to be kept in the loop at all times. I suggest couple’s counseling to learn better communication skills. See if you can return the truck, but if........

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