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No Lube, So Rude: Here’s a Definitive List of the Best Lubricants for Kinky Sex

Whatever you’re into, there’s a specific lube for you.

By Gigi Fong | Reviewed by Ysolt Usigan

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Kinky sex is subjective. Your feeder kink might just need TikTok’s WingStop ASMR to get off, or maybe you need something more intense, like taking two at a time. Whatever floats your boat. There is one non-negotiable, though: lubricant.

Lube has been everywhere recently. UK icon Peaches’ released a new album titled, “No Lube, So Rude” with a limited-edition lube that’s tiny enough to take on-the-go. Elsewhere, viral movie Pillion followed actor Alexander Skarsgård as he learned how to bootlick and use lube. As resident sex expert for pjur lube, Tim Lagman shared, “Media can be a powerful tool when it comes to sex education and representation.” Peaches covered in lube on her album cover?

Why? Well, most people treat lube like a sex accessory when it’s really your sous chef — aka right hand. We all know about condoms and consent being sex essentials, but lubricant is what allows the slip and slide that makes for good sex. For example, your partner’s having a hard time keeping your clit sucker on point, or you’re feeling a bit dry after trying the third sex toy of the session. Your wet friend is made for moments like these. 

“If you’re packing condoms and dental dams in your sex kit, you might as well pack a bottle of lube,” Lagman continued. “Apply more than you think you need, and apply generously. More lube is always a good idea, and less painful friction will make for a smoother experience.” For example, a day of marathon anal calls for pjur Backdoor Silicone lube, Lagman recommended.

THE BEST LUBES FOr kinky sex

For Kinky Clean Girls: Überlube Signature Bottle

For THC Enthusiasts: Kush Queen THC Lube

For Anal: pjur Backdoor

The Animalistic Sex: LubeLife 3x Anal Lube

Fetish Fashion Staple: Dressing for Pleasure Luxury Latex Lubricant

For Temperature Play: Maude Heat

For Foreplay: Playground Date Night

WATER, OIL, OR SILICONE: WHEN TO USE

The type of lube you use is based on the style of fun you plan on having. Fucking in water? Silicone-based lube. Silicone-based lubes are longer-lasting and typically a go-to for that very reason. Amazing for anal. Slight issue: it takes a lot to clean up after pleasure and it will break down your silicone sex toys.

Water-based lubes are lightweight and tend to dry faster meaning that you’ll have to reapply during sex. The cleanup is easier, though.

Good ole’ coconut oil will always do the trick. But,........

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