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Why ‘Cobwebbing’ Could Make Getting Over Your Ex a Whole Lot Easier, According to Psychologists

A psychologist explains why removing digital and physical reminders of your ex could make it easier to recover from a breakup.

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Breakups suck, and they suck even more when the person you’re trying to get over is still all over your phone.

Bumble helped popularize the term “cobwebbing,” a new name for something people have been doing after breakups for decades. As Bruce Y. Lee, M.D., explained in Psychology Today, the idea is to get rid of anything keeping you attached to an ex. Old photos, saved texts, the hoodie they left at your place six months ago. All the stuff you keep around even though the relationship ended months ago.

Your phone is probably the worst offender. You can avoid seeing someone in person for months and still know what they did last Saturday, who they were with, and how happy they seem........

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