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What Women Actually Mean When They Say They Hate Porn

A sex therapist says porn often gets blamed for deeper relationship problems, from fading desire to broken promises.

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Ask a sex therapist what women complain about most, and a familiar list tends to emerge. He watches too much, he lost interest, He made comparisons. And he promised to stop, but didn’t. The list goes on, and porn seems to sit at the center of all of it. Certified sex therapist Marty Klein has been hearing these complaints for decades, and he has some thoughts.

Klein published a piece in Psychology Today cataloging the complaints he hears most from women about pornography. He’s seen more couples with porn-related difficulties than most therapists ever will, and his core argument hasn’t changed: most of what women blame on porn has very little to do with porn.

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