We have a lot of people around us who are constantly finding something negative to criticise in others. They are used to humiliating and subjecting others to their own standards that they do not even follow themselves. Most of these criticisms do not actually come from the other person at all. Psychological studies show that critical behaviour towards others is often a result of one's own unresolved feelings and unexpressed emotions that one carries for a long time. It is essential to understand and accept that feelings and emotions do not simply fade away or disappear; they often find an outlet, sometimes through projection onto others. We rarely stop to evaluate whether we are doing any good by allowing our own traumas and unresolved emotions to spill over onto other people.

It is important for people who have these personality traits and cognitive biases to assess their behaviour because the people closest to them often end up carrying the burden of their traumas and negative perfectionism simply because of their proximity to them. This happens mostly in close relationships because people are generally more off guard among those they hold close. If they are........

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