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Evolutionary Psychologists Say There’s A Reason You Keep Dating People Who Look Like Your Ex

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04.10.2025

"I don't think it's intentional, but I think that someone that looks like someone you were in love with subconsciously creates this safe and familiar feeling," said one woman who's dated people who looked like her ex.

There’s having a physical type – tall, dark and bearded, for instance – then there’s dating someone who looks so much like your ex (or exes, plural), they could be twins. Call it doppelgänger dating.

There’s plenty of examples of doppelgänger dating among celebrities and other public figures: earlier this month Sen. Cory Booker (D-N.J.) announced on Instagram that he was engaged to Alexis Lewis, a real estate agent who bears such a striking resemblance to his ex, actress Rosario Dawson, some commented that they thought it was Dawson: “I was like, Rosario looks great! But then I saw the caption,” one commenter said.

Then there’s Kanye West. Since his divorce from Kim Kardashian, the rapper has dated a string of women who bear a resemblance to the reality star. (He ended up marrying one such Kim K look-alike, Aussie architectural designer Bianca Censori, in 2022.)

It happens in non-celebrity circles, too: Caitlin, a 28-year-old, said two exes have dated dark-haired, blue-eyed women who could pass for sisters post-breakup.

“My one ex’s wife looks so similar to me: same face shape, same eyes, same hair colour, likes to do makeup, makes the same face I make in photos,” Caitlin told HuffPost. “She even has a similar job: I’m an aesthetician and she does nails.”

She felt a bit weird about the resemblances at first – “I thought they must have been trying to find another me” – but then she realised she was........

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