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4 Unexpected but Common Reasons Couples End Up in Therapy, According to an Expert

Going to therapy doesn’t mean failure.

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Many people believe couples therapy is a negative, last-resort solution to a troubled relationship. However, like individual therapy, it can serve as a maintenance tool, helping preserve the health of your connection.

There are many reasons couples might seek therapy, from infidelity and betrayal to a sense of loneliness and disconnection. Steven Buchwald at Manhattan Mental Health Counseling shared some of the most unexpected yet common reasons couples end up in therapy.

1. They Don’t Celebrate Each Other’s Wins

Unfortunately, many couples fail to celebrate each other’s wins, whether due to competitiveness, resentment, or lack of effort. Whatever the case, support is crucial in healthy relationships.

“A person should feel that their partner is their biggest supporter,” says Buchwald. “If this isn’t the case, resentment can build, and validation is sought elsewhere. It often isn’t about wanting superficial praise but knowing that your success matters.”

Your partner should be your cheerleader—and vice versa. Celebrating and supporting each other........

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