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10 Questions You Need to Ask Your Long-Term Partner, According to a Psychotherapist

A psychotherapist says curiosity can help couples reconnect, revisit old dreams, and understand how each partner has changed.

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If you’re looking to strengthen your relationship, curiosity is one of the best ways to do it, according to a recent article in The Washington Post. Continuing to learn about your partner fuels your connection and leaves room for excitement and exploration.

But how, exactly, can you continue to get to know the person you’ve been dating for years or even married to for decades? I spoke with a psychotherapist about the idea of curiosity in relationships—and questions to ask your long-term partner.

The Importance of Curiosity in a Relationship

Curiosity is incredibly important in romantic relationships. Even if you’ve been with your partner for years, you should never stop learning from and about them. 

“When we are curious, we are open to learning more without judgement or imposing our own thoughts,” says Janel Coleman, licensed psychotherapist........

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