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I Wore This Sex Toy to Dinner and Almost Didn’t Make It to Dessert

We put Dame’s Lay to the test—in public.

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Wearable vibrators have truly evolved from sex store novelty days, where they were built into panties and only gave you a few safe uses before having to dispose of them. Now? You can clip them into any of your panties, which has made a boring date night truly impossible. Dame‘s panty vibe, Lay, is the newest on the block, and let’s just say…. we had a time using it.

But, to be fair, they can be hit or miss, too. Some are too clunky for something that sits between my legs. Some brands are cheap, so the magnet is a disaster and barely works. You’ll spend more time adjusting the vibrator than actually having fun. Or, the battery life is ass, and you really only get like 20 minutes of true chaotic fun before you hear your lover go “ahhh, it died.”

What Is The Dame Lay?

Wearable vibrators like the Dame Lay are basically a thrill that goes between your thighs. These are best for solo fuckers, couples, and anyone in general who likes having their own dirty little secret and public play. Truly a must–have sex toy style if you enjoy spicing up your sex life with new toys and experiences. Couples, this is a double whammy for you because novel experiences increased relationship quality—seriously, this 2000 study might be 26 years old, but relationship experts are still quoting it to this day. 

The Dame Lay skips the overcomplicated bells and whistles (that at times don’t even work correctly, like app functionality) and keeps it simple. Personally, this was helpful because I would rather not fuck than spend 30 minutes flipping through an instruction manual figuring out how to use a toy. 

With Lay, your package is going to include two elements: the actual panty vibe and a tiny remote with three buttons. The vibrator itself has a small but mighty magnet that keeps Lay in place as you move. The remote’s three buttons allow you to increase vibrations, decrease them, and turn off the toy. Seriously, can’t fuck that up while enjoying public play.

Sadly, this is only for couples that will be near each other and has no long-distance functionality.

How I Tested the Dame........

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