Specifications and Insurance: The Symptoms of the Shidduch Crisis

I want to talk to write about something that truly hurts us all—the “Shidduch Crisis.” It’s a reality where so many incredible young men and women simply cannot find their match. And let’s be clear: it is not because there is anything wrong with them. It is heartbreaking to see the effort they expend, going on date after date, trying with everything they have. One time he’s interested and she’s not; the next, she’s interested and he’s not. It often ends in more disappointment—just another meeting that goes nowhere.

Have you ever wondered why this is happening? In my opinion, one reason is that we are living in the age of “technical specifications.” Today, you can buy almost anything based on an exact spec sheet. You can order a car with a specific list of upgrades or a cup of coffee customized to the exact temperature and sweetness you like. We’ve become so accustomed to everything in life working exactly how we want it, right when we want it.

But a human being is not a product. Parents and young people today approach dating with a “checklist” so rigid that it’s impossible to satisfy. No one can live their life according to someone else’s spec........

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