I watched a wonderful documentary yesterday called Mountain Queen: The Summits of Lhakpa Sherpa. It’s about the Nepalese woman who submitted Mt. Everest ten times. Really inspiring. Not only because she accomplished an unimaginable feat and survived on Everest but also because she survived a violently abusive alcoholic husband who brought her from Nepal to Connecticut, illiterate and not speaking English, where she was 100% in his power.

At one point in the film, her teenage daughter commented to her sister that their father, who had died of cancer by that time, had told her once that he’d never hurt the girls in any way. The daughter said, “What about all those times he pulled our hair and hit us? Was I imagining it?” And I thought, BINGO! That’s the perfect example of gaslighting. When a person’s........

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