A quick Google search on the topic reveals a plethora of Reddit anecdotes from many women who've been through a relationship with a porn user. Studies show that up to 14 percent of young men report problematic or compulsive porn use (Baker and Wenzel, 2020; Kumar and Anis, 2016; Weinstein and Lejoyeux, 2017). For women, the rate drops to 4.7 percent (Möser and Wölfling, 2018). Many people are in relationships with a porn-using partner.

Most of the research on the experiences of partners of porn users focuses on the female partners. This research suggests that having a porn-using partner affects mental health, relationship satisfaction, and sexual health.

Partners often feel betrayed in many ways. Time spent compulsively watching porn detracts from the time and energy devoted to the relationship. Additionally, porn users frequently conceal or lie about their behavior to avoid consequences. Excessive and compulsive porn consumption can affect partners in ways that resemble the impact of infidelity (Anderson, 2024). Women with porn-using partners report feeling neglected, emotionally abandoned, less valued, and as if they are treated as secondary to porn (Szymanski, Feltman, and Dunn, 2015). It may be difficult for........

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