When you struggle with pain, finding the right provider is critical to your physical health and your sanity. It’s imperative that your doctor listens, understands, and believes you. The wrong provider results in unnecessary, counterproductive torment. Why won’t they listen? Why don’t they believe I know what works? Why do they think they know my body better than I do?

Over the years, I’ve worked with many provider personalities. The experience has allowed me to see behavior patterns—specifically, those you should avoid.

Dr. Gaslighter talks down to you. They explain things with a condescending tone, like you barely made it past kindergarten. I remember when my son was in the ER with croup and an asthma attack, and we were discussing his treatment.

The doctor........

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