Parenthood is often celebrated as a natural part of life, but it involves a profound psychological shift known as the third individuation phase. This phase reshapes identity, values, and self-perception beyond the physical act of becoming a parent (Colarusso, 1990). At its core lies the reproductive story—a personal narrative shaped by family, culture, and societal expectations that begins in childhood (Daniluk, 2001).

Everyone has a reproductive story because it forms a core part of human identity. It may align with the traditional idea of having biological children or take alternative forms, like adoption, surrogacy, or even child-free living. Regardless of its form, this narrative becomes a foundation for the third individuation phase, where individuals either pursue or redefine these early visions (Daniluk, 2001).

This phase isn't just about taking on new responsibilities; it's about reshaping one's identity. Becoming a parent combines hopes and real-life experiences, pushing people to adjust their sense of self to include caring for another person’s growth and needs. How one views one's reproductive journey influences how they handle this change. However, when things don't........

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