Simone is a builder, not of houses, but of her approach to life. In her mind, she has roughly 40 good years to accomplish what she wants to get done—creating that successful business, making VP in the field she’s working in, or having three kids. So, she hits the ground running, maps out career moves, and strategizes timelines for having children.

Matt’s approach to life is different. He switched majors in college and changed jobs when they were unsatisfying or when he felt he had outgrown them; he seeks variety when he gets bored. While Simone marches ahead, he often lingers but then pushes ahead on something he’s passionate about or that catches his interest. He’d like to have kids, but it's OK if he doesn’t. Life for him is to be discovered, not built.

Builders can seem driven; their one life is to be created. They are clear about goals, timelines, and strategies. And even if those goals change, their approach doesn’t—they continue to march forward toward a different destination.

Discoverers, on the other hand, are stereotypically less driven, more laid back, more the dreamers, curious about........

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