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How to manage feeling defeated.

The information was gathered through the clinical work with hundreds of clients.

Understand what it means to be defeated by victory.

Applications for triumphing over defeat and victory.

The following by John Steinbeck supports a well-lived life. “Greatness lies in the one who triumphs equally over defeat and victory.” Steinbeck is encouraging us to risk fully participating in life, with both defeat and victory being inevitable. It means living life on life’s terms, doing what we can to minimize being defeated by either defeat or victory. Let’s look more closely at what it means to be defeated by defeat.

If we’re not feeling victorious, then we’re not only feeling defeated but also defeated by the defeat. That means we might be feeling like a failure, slipping into self-contempt and self-doubt. When these energies are........

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