What Is Emotion Regulation?

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From classrooms to courtrooms, people are taught their worth is measured by how rarely they are wrong.

Embracing uncertainty leads to deeper learning and more meaningful connections.

Grounding and active listening help manage right-wrong attachment.

One of the most shaming and divisive dynamics in our culture is living and talking from an attachment to right and wrong. We can easily shame ourselves when we’re wrong. We quickly learn from our families, schools, and churches that it is preferable to be right.

The right-wrong dynamic is such a natural part of life that we don’t pause and consider what it means to be right or wrong, and what’s lost by remaining attached to this dynamic. It’s also worth considering what we might gain by letting go of our attachment.

Sometimes, being wrong simply means I haven't gathered enough information or evidence to support my thinking, and if I’m not in a conversation, it may be easy to move on. The experience of deciding we are wrong often occurs in a discussion with one or more people. Someone may simply be more articulate than we are, leaving us feeling like we’re wrong. Or someone may have gathered more evidence supporting their position, leaving us feeling that........

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