I first met Georgio at a fetish party when ordering a drink. As a sex educator in New York City, I've attended numerous sex-positive gatherings, and it takes something quite striking to catch my attention. I’ve been a guardian at sex parties, where my role is to ensure that there is consent when people explore public sex, which (when everybody is on their best behavior) essentially involves me getting paid to watch live porn. I have curated erotic experiences for couples at parties. I’ve hosted body paint dance parties, kinky carnivals—where we play Rope Bondage Twister, Pin the Clitoris on the Vulva, Strap-on Ring Toss, and other ridiculous games to see who gets to go home with the vibrators. I feel very happy with my life choices.

This Tuesday night in lower Manhattan, I was helping out some friends who were hosting a more low-key event that involved a man playing the role of a woman’s piano stool as she captivated us........

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