Social psychologist Eli Finkel asks in his book The All or Nothing Marriage, “…given that deep intimacy requires some level of tradeoff between relationship enhancement and self-protection, which risk are you more willing to take: Are you more willing to let yourself be highly vulnerable in pursuit of deep intimacy, or are you more willing to sacrifice some level of intimacy to avoid being highly vulnerable?”

The question demonstrates the importance of vulnerability in achieving a deep level of intimacy with your partner.

Being vulnerable is not easy and takes time, as it requires us to let our walls down and let someone see our true selves. It usually involves a great deal of self-disclosure, in which we share our deepest wants, fears, needs, and........

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