We often perform for close friends, aiming to present our "best selves" even when it's unnecessary.

The Trinidadian concept of "lime" values unplanned, authentic gatherings over polished presentations.

True intimacy grows when we stop rehearsing and simply share our ordinary, unfiltered selves.

I’m very good at making first impressions on people I’ve known for years. Even with my closest friends, I feel the need to present my best self at all times. And that takes preparation.

Text before you call. Let’s find a time. Thursday works. Two o’clock is perfect. Give me 20 minutes, and I’ll become the version of myself I’d like you to meet. I’ll put on a better shirt. I’ll remember my funniest stories. I’ll shake off whatever disappointment or irritation I’ve been carrying around all day. By the time you arrive, you’ll be seeing someone carefully........

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