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Upset about not having a genetic tie to your child is your issue alone.

Donor conceived or not, your child will see you as their parent.

You can grieve over the loss of not having a genetically related child and have a wonderful family.

Your feelings about a loss of a genetic connection do not need to affect your relationship with your child.

Loving your donor conceived child and grieving over your genetics are two separate issues.

At first glance, that sentence may sound confusing. How can someone be excited to become a parent and at the same time feel upset about using the assistance of an egg or sperm donor to have their child?

I see this all the time. People feel anxious or sad about using a donor and then assume those feelings mean they won’t be able to love or bond with their child. Very quickly, the mind races with worries such........

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