While each of us is the center of our own universe, sometimes, our judgments of ourselves should be de-emphasized, especially when they’re based on unrealistic standards.

Perfectionists tend to believe that others hold them to the same standard they hold themselves to. As a result, they often struggle with severe social anxiety, expecting rejection.

In my work with perfectionists, I've found that many of my patients place the burden of proof on me, as they do with their loved ones, implicitly or explicitly noting that their self-concepts are more or less set in stone. Thus, to paraphrase the famed astronomer Carl Sagan,........

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