We’ve all been there. You end a relationship, and instead of feeling free, you feel stuck. You’re haunted by memories, what-ifs, and the weight of unresolved emotions. You tell yourself you need “closure,” but that elusive sense of finality doesn’t come.

So, what do you do? You replay the conversations, scroll through old photos, maybe even reach out to your ex—hoping that somehow, this time, you’ll get the closure you’re craving.

But here’s the thing: Closure doesn’t come from someone else. It comes from you.

In Break Up On Purpose, I talk a lot about relationship residue—the emotional baggage we carry after a breakup. It’s like sticky tar that follows us into the next phase of our lives unless we actively work to release it. If you don’t address that residue, you end up carrying it into your next relationship, repeating the same patterns, and expecting different results.

The truth is, waiting for someone else to give you closure is a losing game. If you want to truly move forward, you have to create that closure for yourself. Here’s how.

Before you can let go, you have to get real with yourself. What’s keeping you attached to this past relationship? Is it unresolved anger, a fear of being alone, or maybe the loss of a future you imagined with that person? Whatever it is, you........

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