Breakups aren’t just about ending a relationship with someone else—they’re also about uncovering the relationship you have with yourself. Every connection you’ve had with someone acts as a mirror, reflecting back the patterns you’ve created, the wounds you haven’t healed, and the parts of yourself you’ve neglected. When those relationships come to an end, you’re often left staring at the rawest parts of yourself.

So, what is your breakup showing you?

This isn’t a rhetorical question. It’s one of the most important questions you can ask yourself. Every breakup gives us two options: we can either repeat the same patterns and end up in the same emotional cycles, or we can wake up, break the cycle, and finally create the relationships we truly deserve.

In Break Up. On Purpose, I explore the concept that breakups are more than just heartache—they’re opportunities to examine the patterns we’ve been repeating for years. These........

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