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If info helps your co-parent support your child, it's worth sharing—even when parallel parenting.

Sharing info isn't access to your life; it's helping your child feel supported in both homes.

Kids carry emotions between homes; parents need context to comfort and guide them effectively.

Q: My co-parent and I have been parallel parenting since our breakup. We communicate as little as possible because keeping our lives separate prevents arguments. Recently, our son came home from his father's house very upset. His grandfather lives with Dad, and they are extremely close. Grandpa has cancer and has become very thin. Our son noticed and was frightened, but he was afraid to ask Dad or Grandpa what was happening. When he came back to my house, he asked if Grandpa was going to die. I didn't even know Grandpa was sick. I was completely unprepared to help him. How do you know when it's time to share information?

A: After a breakup, parents may choose a parallel parenting approach to limit communication and reduce conflict. But parallel parenting doesn't eliminate the need to share information about your child.

The big question is: When does sharing information really become necessary?

A good guideline is this: Your child goes back and forth. At times, the information necessary to support your child may have to go back and forth, too. If knowing something will help your co-parent understand, care for, or support your child, it's probably information worth sharing.

Your son's grandfather's illness is a perfect example.

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