Understanding Loneliness

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We all feel lonely at times and there is a growth potential in enduring it.

Self-acceptance, not rescue, empowers us against the hold of loneliness.

Trusting our own completeness leads to healthier, liberating relationships.

Any one of these false beliefs might lurk within the fear of aloneness:

I am alone because no one wants me.

No one wants to be with me.

I have nothing to offer.

I am totally powerless.

It is never going to get any better.

I feel less than other people who are able to live their lives happily.

I may have to grieve and not be able to handle it.

I may feel fear and be devastated by it or not be able to do anything about it.

I am the only person feeling this.

To deal with loneliness, it is helpful to stay with yourself, not abandon yourself. Trust yourself. Stay one more minute in the abyss than you can stand, increasing the time each day. That one more minute will increase your power and inner resources exponentially. Unconditional love of yourself is loving yourself when you feel the worst. This creates a sense of completeness. Carl Jung wrote, “There is no loneliness, only ever-increasing all-ness.”........

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