AI only knows your side of the story. Your partner has a perspective too.

Use AI to challenge your assumptions, not just validate your feelings.

The best AI prompts invite curiosity, empathy, and perspective-taking.

Let AI refine your message, but don't let it replace your authentic voice.

Over the past few years, artificial intelligence (AI) has gradually become a third party in many of our personal relationships, and it’s not hard to see why.

Tools like ChatGPT, Gemini, and Claude can be surprisingly good at helping people vent after an argument, come up with apologies that hit all the right notes, make sense of confusing text messages, or even bring the right words to a difficult conversation. Strong emotions can scramble the thoughts of even a level-headed person, and a neutral sounding board can help make up the difference.

But before you copy and paste that carefully crafted message into your texting app, it’s worth asking yourself:

“What might I be missing here?”

“What might I be missing here?”

Every Conflict Starts With a Story

When we’re hurt, frustrated, or disappointed, our minds immediately start cobbling together a narrative.

We reflect on what happened and replay conversations, probably multiple times. However, we also fill in the gaps with our best guesses when it comes to what the other person intended. Before long, we’ve got a passably coherent story on our hands that explains why we’re feeling the way we do.

Naturally, we’re only experiencing one side of the actual interaction. Plus, your partner is constructing a narrative of their own.

Neither take is entirely fabricated, but both are incomplete, as the two of you have filtered........

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