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Feeling annoyed by someone can occupy a lot more mental space than is desirable.

But, we can’t always do much about having to interact with that person.

For example, you can’t opt out of your exposure to them if they’re a work colleague who’s in most of your meetings, or a classmate who wastes everyone's time on tangents or who tries to show they're smarter than the instructor.

When you’re in this situation, you may realize that you need an attitude change toward the person for your own sake. You might no longer want to allow them to interfere with your daily experience to such an extent.

Ask Yourself These Questions to Get Relief

Here are five questions you can use to attempt that mental shift. The purpose isn’t to gaslight yourself into believing the person isn’t annoying; it’s to jiggle free your perspective just enough that you can see another view is possible. You're doing it to relieve your own tension.

Even if only one or two of these questions appeal and the others feel naff, that may be all you need.

1. It’s 10 years in the future. You’re looking back on now because it’s when you accomplished what, 10 years later, is still the most........

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