There Are 4 Types Of Introverts. Which One Are You?
Experts break down the different types and levels of introversion and how to use them to your advantage.
Ah, yes, that moment when you finally get home and can just relax. Changing into PJs and doing whatever you want to do — by yourself — hits different, doesn’t it?
If you’re a homebody or enjoy quiet, personal time, you’re probably an introvert. In other words, you “recharge” by spending time alone (or in small groups with close loved ones) and prefer those settings.
Even more interesting — perhaps especially for fellow personality test lovers — there are four types of introverts: social introverts, thinking introverts, anxious introverts and restrained introverts.
Ahead, therapists dive deeper into what each type looks like and their suggestions for embracing it:
The Social Introvert
Rhea Freeman, a business coach, mentor and author of “You’ve Got This,” does a lot of public speaking and has even been on the radio and TV. And yes: She’s also an introvert.
“When we think ‘introvert,’ we often think of someone who’s shy in social situations, but that’s not me,” she said.
For social introverts, the “introvert” part is more about preferring smaller groups and people you know.
“I’m OK with large-ish groups but I find it a lot, particularly if I don’t know the people as I’m never quite sure what to do,” she said. “If it’s with people I know, I’m fine, or if I have a job to do, I’m fine, but socially is a bit different.”
Avoiding big events is her instinct, she continued, but she’s been trying to push herself to embrace those opportunities more.
According to therapists, signs of social introversion include:
- Preferring small gatherings with close friends or one-on-one conversations
- Enjoying solitary activities and not feeling lonely when you’re hanging out by yourself
- Feeling drained after extended social interactions, or needing time to recharge after, even when you had fun
- Preferring to communicate via text or online
What therapists advise social introverts:
Ultimately, lean into your social introversion. “I recommend social introverts engage in small gatherings where they can connect with a few people at a time, and schedule downtime afterward to recharge,” said Monica Cwynar, a licensed clinical social worker with Thriveworks in Pittsburgh who specialises in relationships, trauma and coping skills.
Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist, author, podcaster and researcher, said that setting clear expectations with loved ones can be helpful, keeping them in the loop and helping them understand. Having that conversation and giving yourself the grace to embrace your needs can help you avoid resenting your interactions and loved ones, she explained.
That conversation may feel uncomfortable, but that doesn’t mean you did anything “wrong.”
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