As I grow older, I’m convinced that one of the secrets to happiness is realizing that you are not nearly as important as you sometimes think you are.

Most of us spend a ridiculous amount of time worrying about how we look, how we sound, whether we said the right thing, whether somebody noticed our mistake, and whether everyone is secretly judging us. Here’s the good news: Most people are not thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are (unless you are a rock star or a politician). Most people are too busy thinking about themselves.

We are all starring in our own personal movies and occasionally forget that everyone else is starring in theirs. Everybody is the lead character in their own lives.

I’m working on the positive power of not taking myself too seriously. I mean, come on, I basically get paid for making stuff up and writing happy thoughts and all. I like to think I help my........

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